The Event, The Work, The Forever
Our approach to the journey of grief includes: The event (the reaction to the event); The Work (working through grief by reconstructing meaning of the loss); The Forever (the remembering). This approach helps to eliminate stages, expectations, tasks, timelines, and expectation of closure.
The Event = Reaction
The event that causes an individual to have a reaction to a loss. These may include, but are not limited to, a tragic or unexpected death, a divorce, the loss of a job, or a move from a beloved home. The event can be death or nondeath related.
THe work = Reconstruction
Working grief is an engaging and ongoing process in which the griever defines the work that leads to some level of adaptation to the loss.
“When you can’t go back, you have to worry only about the best way of moving forward” (Coelho, 1993, p. 77).
the forever = remembering
Grief that lingers long after the loss but that no longer consumes or controls the griever’s life.