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Understanding Grief: A Forum

  • Epihany Lutheran Church 1100 Colonial Road Harrisburg, PA, 17112 United States (map)


  • Death is awkward.
  • Grief is grief no matter who dies or how they die.  What is different is the intensity and duration of the grieving process.
  • Grief is complex and everyone’s journey is unique.
  • You will walk away from this forum with a better understanding of the grieving process and how you can help others.

BACKGROUND:  Twenty-three years ago, Lynn Shiner’s ex-husband murdered her two children, Jen and Dave, 10 and 8, on Christmas Day. This nightmare, her despair and anger, left her numb, afraid, and “zombielike,” with intense, overwhelming feelings, visions and memories. Yet, throughout her journey, she suffered feelings of inadequacy and anxiety as she struggled to fit her experience into the wisdom of traditional psychiatric models, stages and timelines, designed to help. Based on her journey, she felt her experience was better expressed as a trajectory that included a more realistic approach that included the event, the work and the forever, eliminating the word closure. In her mind, “You love them forever. Why wouldn’t you grieve them forever?”

Join Lynn and Lisa Zoll, a Licensed Clinical Social Worker and Instructor of Social Work at Temple University as they discuss the following topics:

  • Recognize common reactions to grief.
  • Examine a less structured approach to grief, that allows grievers to focus on their journey rather than on stages, time frames, expectations and the elimination of closure.  
  • Understand the importance of encouraging reflection and storytelling.
  • Walk away with solid advice on how you can help family and friends through the grieving process.


Anyone who has been impacted by death.


  •  The presenters have published a self-help book entitled “Grief: The Event, The Work, The   Forever” and will be available for $10. Proceeds benefit Epiphany Lutheran Church.
  •   Light refreshments will be available.

Any questions, feel free to email Lynn Shiner at or Lisa Zoll at

Hope to see you there!